How to support children's self confidence and self esteem

How to support children’s self confidence and self esteem

In the early years, children can be so different from one another. On one end of the spectrum, there are loud and active children, and on the other quiet and shy. And in between those, there are children that experience moments of both. Whilst it isn’t anything to worry about where they sit on this spectrum, it is important to identify if your child is quiet and shy because they’re lacking in confidence and self esteem.

This month, The Muswell Hill Preschool is here to help you identify if your child has high or low confidence and self esteem, and what you can do to help improve a lack of self confidence or self esteem both in school and at home. 

Understanding what self esteem looks like in children

Firstly, it’s important to understand your child. Do you worry that your child doesn’t make friends easily or that they’re self deprecating?

Below we’ve put together a couple of lists, one that shows what confidence and self esteem looks like in children and the other that shows what a lack of confidence and self esteem in children looks like. You can use this list as guidance to identify if your child has high or low confidence and self esteem. 

High self esteem in children looks like:

  • Makes positive comments about themselves and their work
  • Always happy to try something new
  • Has friends and will speak to others
  • Content when with friends and alone
  • Will embrace change 
  • Can understand their mistakes and will try again
  • Proud of themselves and their achievements 

Low self esteem in children looks like:

  • Is negative about themselves
  • Finds it hard to make friends
  • Likes to sit alone
  • Gets angry when they fail
  • Doesn’t like trying new things
  • Compares themselves to others who have done better
  • Is quiet and shy most of the time

Whilst it may be disheartening to know that your child lacks confidence and self esteem, it’s important to know that this is common and many children experience it. You can also take solace in knowing that there are things you can do with them to  help boost their confidence and self esteem in schools and at home, which we have gone into detail below about.

How to boost confidence and self esteem in children

Here are some things that you can do to help boost your child’s self confidence and self esteem in schools and at home. 

Take them to a preschool

Preschool is a great way to set your child up for educational success. Introducing them to routine, activities and other children will help to boost their confidence and self esteem before they start primary school. When all children know is their homes and their families, it can feel like diving in at the deep end, so to help nurture their confidence and self esteem, it’s good to get them started at preschool.

Try not to overpraise 

We’re all guilty of it and we all want the best from our children, but in cases where children know that they could have done better, avoid giving them empty praise. Instead give them honest feedback, something along the lines of, ‘It’s OK that it didn’t go to plan, I’m sure next time you’ll do much better. Well done for giving it a go’. Instead of giving them praise that they don’t feel worthy of, give them encouragement and support by letting them know that they can try again another time. 

Be a positive role model

Doing the cooking and cleaning can be exhausting but to make sure you send the right message, do these tasks cheerfully and take your time. Avoid rushing through chores and grumbling about it so that your child feels more encouraged to take on responsibilities. Self esteem and confidence is boosted when children see that what they are doing is of benefit to others, so give them small tasks to complete throughout the day and be sure to tell them how well they’ve done to build their self esteem. 

Open the floor up to conversations about feelings

If you notice that your child seems quieter than usual or different in any way, check in with them. Open the floor up to conversations and let them talk about their day. It might be that they’re overtired after a long day or it might be that they fell out with a friend – either way, giving them the opportunity to talk will help you to see where you can assist them. If they’re concerned about something at school, you could offer them advice about how to overcome these worries or speak with their teacher so that they can look out for it to help raise their confidence and self esteem in school. 

Contact The Muswell Hill Preschool

At The Muswell Hill Preschool, it is our mission to nurture every child so that they have the confidence and self esteem needed to succeed in everything they put their minds to. We’re passionate about helping children to build strong foundations, and to do this, we support and inspire children with a number of activities that allows them to explore, discover, create and learn. 

Regardless of your child’s individual needs, we work closely with them to better understand where their interests lie and how they learn best so that we can tailor their time with us in a way that’s most beneficial to them. 

For more information about who we are and how we can boost your child’s confidence and self esteem, contact our friendly professionals who will be more than happy to help. Feel free to take a virtual tour of our premises, and if you like what you see, do book an in-person visit with your child to get a better look.